Are You More Attractive Than You Think? (2024)

Motivational quotes and self-help articles have put in us this idea that we can live without caring at all what others think of us. But this is unrealistic.

As social creatures, we will always pay attention to the way we are perceived by others. The question is, how vulnerable are you to people’s perceptions of you?

Paying attention to what others say isn’t all useless. As the relationship therapist Esther Perel explained to Lewis Howes in an interview, it takes a relationship for you to truly know yourself. Why?

Left to our self-assessment, we will miss vital details necessary to make the right changes to make ourselves better. However, looking up to others for our self-evaluation can come with a lot of downsides.

Sometimes we end up seeing ourselves as less perfect than we are. And according to several scientific types of research, here are some reasons why.

In an elaborate study that involved female participants from 26 countries, researchers asked the ladies the body shape and size they thought were the most desirable to men.

Interestingly, most of the women in the study assumed that men found slim and big-breasted women more desirable. And these standards made the women judge themselves harshly when they think of their physical desirability.

The findings in this research will not be a shocker to most people. In this era of social media and paparazzi, we see these ideals displayed all over our faces. Music videos, movies, Ad agencies like to use perfect-looking people.

In reality, there are so many people without perfect physic or flawless skin who are still highly attractive. But because of the unrealistic standards that they’ve seen all around them, they think that’s the ideal they should aim for.

Indeed, there’s nothing wrong with improving yourself or getting into shape, however, that improvement should not come from a place of insecurity. It should come from your desire to grow and be a better version of yourself.